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People often focus so much on being loving and giving that they forget their own limits. Can you say NO and still be loving and kind? YES! By establishing boundaries in your relationships you bring new happiness and health to all your interactions. This talk is all about boundaries. How to set them, why you need to set them, with who, how to deal when they are disrespected and more. Watch and share! **Must listen to this talk by Rabbi Shay Schachter on chessed (acts of kindness) and BOUNDARIES. http://www.yiwoodmere.org/shiurim.html?page=lecture&shiurID=917769&teacherFullName=Rabbi-Shay-Schachter&shiurTitle=Creating-Open-Homes-of-Chessed-With-Appropriate-Boundaries

Every stage of life has its own unique challenges. Marriage is one of those stages that tends to bring out lots of shame. Not only because we think others have it together when we don’t, but also because we feel guilt and shame when we can’t connect the way we dreamed we would - you know those fairy tale endings... they don’t show you what happens AFTER the wedding. They don’t show you how Cinderella’s childhood trauma, abandonment and neglect plays out in her marriage with the handsome prince. In this recording of our Mental Health Monday live interview with Efrat Turk (aired on Dec 23, 2019) she gives us a bit of perspective on the challenges of marriage, insights into how EFT* is used to help re-connect couples using attachment theory, and helps to break stigmas so we can alleviate some shame. Efrat Turk LMHC has received her Masters in Mental Health Counseling from Queens College. She maintains a private practice in Queens and Brooklyn, while also working at Sephardic Bikur Cholim as their primary couples therapist. Efrat is also Certified in Emotion Focused Therapy and her work focuses primarily on relationships, anxiety, trauma, and depression. * Emotion-focused therapy (EFT) is a family of approaches to psychotherapy including elements of experiential therapy (such as Gestalt therapy), systemic therapy, and attachment theory. EFT is based on the premise that emotions are connected to needs, and therefore emotions have an adaptive potential that, if activated and worked through, can help with self-regulation and repair interpersonal relationships. Project Proactive is a grassroots volunteer initiative to educate the community, raise awareness, normalize the conversation, and break stigmas surrounding all things mental health. In order to further these goals, @project_proactive hosts weekly live interviews on Instagram with various mental health professionals, organizations, and people who have important stories to tell. Follow us on Instagram to find out about upcoming topics or to get more involved. You can also find more resources on our website, www.jproactive.com

Parenting can be stressful, especially when your nerves are completely fried from regular day-today stresses. In this recording, Psychologist & Author, Sarah Chana Radcliffe, shares some basic parenting tools to help de-stress, and approach normal parenting challenges with effective strategies. Aired on June 17th, 2019 Project Proactive is a grassroots volunteer initiative to build community, raise awareness, normalize the conversation, and break stigmas surrounding all things mental health. In order to further these goals, @project_proactive hosts weekly live interviews on Instagram with various mental health professionals, organizations, and people who have important stories to tell. Follow us on Instagram to find out about upcoming topics or to get more involved. You can also find more resources on our website, www.jproactive.com A bit more about Sarah Chana Radcliffe: Sarah Chana is a Psychologist, practicing in Toronto, Ontario, Canada. She uses a variety of cutting edge therapies to help improve relationships, reduce stressful emotions, and maximize achievement. She gives her clients the tools to help live their best life after therapy ends. Because there is no therapy that is one-size-fits-all, Sarah Chana utilizes a variety of therapeutic interventions including Mindfulness-Based Psychotherapy, EFT, HeartMath and EMDR. With over 30 years of experience, Sarah Chana is a leader in the world of psychology, publishing many books including "Raise Your Kids without Raising Your Voice" and "The Fear Fix: Solutions for Every Child's Moments of Worry, Panic and Fear."

On this episode of #mentalheathmonday (aired on February 17th, 2020) we hosted a special guest, Dr. Aimee Baron who shared all about why she started her organization "I Was Supposed to Have a Baby" ( @iwassupposedtohaveababy on Instagram) and why infertility and grief (specifically post miscarriage, stillbirth or infant loss) are not mental illnesses in and of themselves. This tremendous challenge CAN present some mental health alarm bells, but it is so important to not confuse these struggles with mental illness. This understanding can help inform the way we show up for ourselves and others who are trying to navigate this very challenging grief filled journey. Aimee Baron MD, FAAP, is the founder and executive director of I Was Supposed to Have a Baby, a nonprofit organization that utilizes social media to support Jewish individuals and families as they are struggling to have a child. It provides a warm and nurturing space for those going through infertility, pregnancy loss, infant loss, surrogacy or adoption, in addition to connecting those families to resources in the Jewish community at large. Dr. Baron was formerly the Director of Innovation and Growth at @nechamacomfort , and has also worked as an Attending Pediatrician in the Newborn Nursery and Neonatal Intensive Care Unit at St. Luke’s-Roosevelt Hospital before taking a leave of absence after her third miscarriage. Project Proactive is a nonprofit organization that works to educate the community, raise awareness, normalize the conversation, and break stigmas surrounding all things mental health. In order to further these goals, @project_proactive hosts weekly live interviews on Instagram with various mental health professionals, organizations, and people who have important stories to tell. Follow us on Instagram to find out about upcoming topics or to get more involved. You can also find more resources on our website, www.jproactive.com.

Shlomo Radcliffe had so much information on Anger Management, and will be continuing to share more on his Instagram account @oneminutecalmer over the next few weeks. Shlomo is a Registered Psychotherapist and Certified Anger Management Specialist. He provides counselling for adults, teens, and children struggling with anger and frustration, anxiety and panic, hard to manage stress, and the emotional effects of trauma. Shlomo is passionate about his work and the opportunity to help individuals learn to live their lives more fully, with greater balance and ease. For more information about his work and/or to book a consultation please visit www.shlomoradcliffe.ca Project Proactive is a grassroots volunteer initiative to build community, raise awareness, normalize the conversation, and break stigmas surrounding all things mental health. In order to further these goals, @project_proactive hosts weekly live interviews on Instagram with various mental health professionals, organizations, and people who have important stories to tell. Follow us on Instagram to find out about upcoming topics or to get more involved. You can also find more resources on our website, www.jproactive.com

Modern technology presents a new challenges to parenting in the 21st Century, and the challenge might be very different that you think... In this recording, Blimie Heller, of Unconditional Parenting, emphasizes that connection is a primal human necessity, similar to food. If children don’t feel connected they will seek out connection in whatever way they can - and it may not be the safest or healthiest way. Aired on June 24, 2019. Project Proactive is a grassroots volunteer initiative to build community, raise awareness, normalize the conversation, and break stigmas surrounding all things mental health. In order to further these goals, @project_proactive hosts weekly live interviews on Instagram with various mental health professionals, organizations, and people who have important stories to tell. Follow us on Instagram to find out about upcoming topics or to get more involved. You can also find more resources on our website, www.jproactive.com

Mental Illness effects approximately 1 in 5 people, so it’s pretty likely that you know and love someone with a mental illness (or have one yourself). In this #mentalhealthmonday Live, Rachel discusses the impact mental illness has on family members and how to effectively show support. It's really an important resource for families actively struggling to find balance. Aired on July 22, 2019. Rachel is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) working with kids, teens, and adults and women experiencing infertility and post hysterectomy. Aside from her private practice in Cedarhurst, NY, Rachel teaches a 4-week parenting course and travels the world speaking about various mental health and well-being topics. Find out more about Rachel by visiting her website https://www.racheltuchman.com/ or on her #okclarity profile https://okclarity.com/directory/rachel-tuchman/ Project Proactive is a grassroots volunteer initiative to build community, raise awareness, normalize the conversation, and break stigmas surrounding all things mental health. In order to further these goals, @project_proactive hosts weekly live interviews on Instagram with various mental health professionals, organizations, and people who have important stories to tell. Follow us on Instagram to find out about upcoming topics or to get more involved. You can also find more resources on our website, www.jproactive.com

An incredibly important topic! Please, if you are a parent, and skeptical about talking to your children about sex, please watch this all the way through. Elisheva Liss, LMFT, approaches this important topic with grace, dignity and a lot of spirituality. Please help your children learn about this before they are introduced to the topic by someone else. While Elisheva addresses the topic mostly from an Orthodox, Jewish perspective, it is highly relevant to everyone - from any community or religious affiliation. Elisheva Liss is a licensed marriage and family therapist in the New York area. She works with individuals and couples, to help improve their quality of life and relationships. The most common issues she treats are depression, anxiety, sexual, and relationship problems. Her book "Find Your Horizon of Healthy Thinking: Hack Your Thoughts and Improve Your Mood A 3 Step Technique for Better Living" can be found on Amazon by clicking here: https://www.amazon.com/Elisheva-Liss/e/B07JN5TRJ6%3Fref=dbs_a_mng_rwt_scns_share Project Proactive is a grassroots volunteer initiative to build community, raise awareness, educate, normalize the conversation, and break stigmas surrounding all things mental health. In order to further these goals, @project_proactive hosts weekly live interviews on Instagram with various mental health professionals, organizations, and people who have important stories to tell. Follow us on Instagram to find out about upcoming topics or to get more involved. You can also find more resources on our website, www.jproactive.com

From my Instagram LIVE. Empowering your children with knowledge and fostering connection and communication. See below for book recommendations with links. Start with body awareness and labeling body parts (anatomically correct) in toddlerhood. Teach body safety early! Puberty talks when you notice body changes or that their peers may be starting to go through it. Sex talk when you think they are likely to hear about it at school, on the bus. Watch my video to know the signs. Much more covered in my talk. Take a listen and share. A great shiur by Rabbi Yitzchak Shechter on the torah view of these sensitive talks: https://www.yutorah.org/lectures/lecture.cfm/814882/dr-yitzchak-schechter-mrs-shoshana-schechter/having-the-talk-parenting-parsha-and-sensitive-topics/#.XE86Kk1irCI.gmail Links for my book recommendations: *American Girl: The care and keeping of you https://www.amazon.com/dp/1609580834/?ref=idea_lv_dp_ov_d *What's Happening to My Body? Book for Boys: Revised Edition https://www.amazon.com/dp/1557047650/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_s75vCbZQZEDY9 *What's Happening to My Body? Book for Girls: Revised Edition https://www.amazon.com/dp/1557047642/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_gbGwCbQM9GV0S *Good pictures, Bad pictures https://www.amazon.com/Good-Pictures-Bad-Porn-Proofing-Todays/dp/0997318732/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1547661289&sr=8-1&keywords=good+pictures+bad+pictures *Amazing You https://www.amazon.com/dp/0142410586/?ref=idea_lv_dp_ov_d *Let's stay safe https://www.amazon.com/Lets-Stay-Safe-Bracha-Goetz/dp/1422611108/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1547661321&sr=8-1&keywords=lets+stay+safe *Guy Stuff: The Body Book for Boys https://www.amazon.com/dp/1683370260/?ref=idea_lv_dp_ov_d *Boys Body Book https://www.amazon.com/Boys-Body-Book-Everything-Growing/dp/1604337133/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1547661360&sr=8-2&keywords=boys+body+book *Talking About Personal Privacy https://www.amazon.com/Talking-About-Personal-Privacy-Bracha/dp/1680250744/ref=dp_ob_title_bk *I said No: A kid to kid guide to keeping private parts private https://www.amazon.com/Said-Guide-Keeping-Private-Parts/dp/1878076493/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1547661391&sr=8-2&keywords=no+means+no