THE BEAUTY OF AGE

Updated: Feb 27

For more short divrei Torah on this week's parsha check out our book!

According to the midrash, Avraham asked Hashem for grey hair.[1] Before this, there were no visible signs of his aging. Hashem agreed, and allowed Avraham to be the first person to age.[2]


Can you imagine someone in today’s generation actually asking to age? Our entire culture revolves around fighting the aging process. Many people go to great lengths to hide their age.


Why on earth would Avraham ask to age?


Aside from the practical reasons of not confusing parents with their children, he wanted us to understand that there is a distinct beauty in older age. Avraham was actually called beautiful in the Torah after he aged. He wanted to show the world that age is like a crown to wear, and to be proud of.


There is a famous saying; “learn from the past, live in the present, and work toward the future”. As we age, it important that we are proud of our past – not necessarily because we acted perfectly, but because we can see growth from it. The ability to look back at a life of growth is a much greater gift than perfection.


Not only did Hashem give Avraham the gift of looking old, but Yitzchak was the first to look young. Before Yitzchak, people were born mature looking. They did not look like cute little babies. Imagine waking up numerous times in the middle of the night to an adult crying to be fed or changed. We might not have much patience for them at all. It’s such a bracha (blessing) that babies are cute and vulnerable.


This idea highlights the importance of creating a healthy family structure. It is critical for normal child development to view the parent as a figure of authority, someone who has life experiences, someone who has overcome challenges, and someone who can guide them through life.


Parents and children should never be confused with each other. Parents should behave like parents, and children should be nurtured and taken care of. Role reversals are detrimental to normal child development.


The gift of visual separation helps to define these roles, and helps to define a healthy and beautiful family structure.


Inspired by Rav Shimshon David Pinkus in his sefer Tiferet Shimson & the Lekach Tov

[1] Bereshit Rabbah 65


[2] Bava Metzia 87a

PROJECT PROACTIVE is a US 501 (c)(3) public charity, EIN 84-2410920
aiming to break mental health stigmas and proactively alleviate barriers to health through spreading awareness and education.

MENTAL HEALTH & PSYCH EDUCATION | MENTAL HEALTH RESOURCES | MENTAL HEALTH BLOG | COMMUNITY AWARENESS | PARTNER ORGANIZATIONS

*DISCLAIMER – The information on this site is provided for informational purposes only. There has been no formal vetting process for information shared on this site and readers should consult a professional for any questions or concerns regarding their health. These resources should not be viewed as a substitute for obtaining professional council.

Click here for full disclaimer and terms of use

Since we are a startup and powered by volunteers, our databases remain a work in progress and we rely on people like YOU to help us stay current.
Please e-mail us at
info@jproactive.com to share resources, ideas, or to submit a blog post. We will do our best to get back to you as soon as possible.

© 2019 by Project Proactive. 

Big shout out to Bitmoji for inspiring our vibe.